If you know me even a wee bit, you know for me, it’s facebook. It didn’t start out that way. In fact, I really didn’t care for the whole social media concept. That went for MySpace too. I had better things to do, like write! But I felt pressured that to get seen and heard by readers I needed to do the MySpace thing. I did, and–meh. When Twitter erupted, I jumped on that bandwagon, but quickly lost interest. All of those hash tag retweet thingies confuse me. Periodically, I’ll pop in to see what’s going on and while I won’t say I’m not a fan, because I am, let’s just say I’m not a playah. ^_~
I’m not sure what happened to hook me into facebook. It wasn’t because every person in my industry said, you need fb to reach readers! I’m not good at pimping my books. More than that, it makes me uncomfortable, so I don’t do it. So, while I did cave and activate an author fb page, I stayed away from it for the most part. I popped in every once in a while, accepted anyone who sent me a friend request and was good to go. But the more time I gave my author fb, the more sucked in I became, the more fun I had, the more aware of what was going on around me I became and well, I worked it, in that I looked for information and found it. But more than that, I met new friends. Friends I wanted to check in on and well, sometime last year, I got completely sucked in.
I have another fb page, my personal one. The one with my kids, hubby, extended family, friends outside my industry and neighbors, and let me tell you, it’s a yawner. I don’t post anything that could conceivably embarrass my children or offend my husband (i.e. nekkid pics of hawt guys), not, mind you that I would mind embarrassing my children, but embarrass them in a good way, not the kind of way that makes them cringe (i.e. some of the excerpts I post on my author page would upset them). So, I keep my two fb worlds separate, for their sake, and for mine. They do get irritated that I won’t friend them on the fun page, but oh, well. Get over it.
And I do have a blast on my author page. I have met so many great people there, people who not only love to read and write romance, but people who are fun, thoughtful, and willing to share information, pictures (Ada and Lisa), and experiences (yes, some share a leetle too much, but it’s all in the spirit of fun). I cannot tell you how many times I have put a research question out on my author page and had a dozen immediate responses or links showing me the way. I put the same question on my personal page and…crickets.
For me, my author fb is the party that is in a constant state of ebb and flow. Some days or nights it’s crazy busy and we get silly, other days and nights it’s slow, and maudlin. I’m comfortable there, no pretenses. I get serious, I get thoughtful, I get silly, I occasionally rant, sometimes I have to lay down the law, deflect the occasional creeper or lothario who cannot spell or conjugate (I mean really, I’m a writer for God’s sake, learn how to spell and conjugate before you attempt to woo me via fb messages), I get emotional, and I am certainly provocative in that I love to elicit visceral reactions from my fb friends about one thing we all have in common: sex, drugs and rock and roll (oops make that tree things). Ok, no drugs, unless we’re talking hormone replacement or anti-depressants, but definitely music, and sex. Sexy pictures, sexy excerpts, sexy sayings, sexy covers, sexy blurbs, basically, whatever we find sexy, could be a fave wine or chocolate, or a man’s ass. Or his eyes. Or sex aside we talk cats, and dogs and kids and stupid things people say and do. It’s endless really, we all have so much in common. Like I said, it’s an ongoing party for me. For others it could be the polar opposite of that, oh and thinking of that, one thing I did not mention was that fb is a breeding ground for drama, real or imagined.
Think about it. How many times have you seen this post or something similar?: I am so over your crap!
Lol, it’s guaranteed to elicit a flurry of im’s asking who that person is talking about, or if it’s them, and what did they do wrong.
I love the crypticness of fb. Yes, I am guilty of using fb to get a message across to a specific person while the masses think it’s a comment in general, but I never air my dirty laundry on either my author or personal fb. I know this is hard to believe considering all that I post and my divulgences over the years, but I am a very private person. I play on fb. I’m my serious private person in person. I know, go figure, but one thing that I am no matter where I am, is social. I love good people, I love to hang out with a glass of wine or a cup of coffee and laugh, flirt, and get nosey. The day I stop doing that is the day y’all can bury me.
So, what’s your social media poison? I’m giving away one signed copy of each of my Blood Sword Legacy print books. All you have to do it comment, and even if you don’t want the books? :/~ comment anyway!
PS, the hunkaliciousness compliments of Ada and Lisa, two of my fave fb gal pals!