I’ve known a few men in my life.
This is not a confession. But I think about what I love about men a lot. Yes, I’m happily married but I am forced to think about other men. It’s part of the job of writing male characters – heroes in particular.
If you made a list of the most important thing you wanted in a man what would be number one? Would he have to be good looking? Would he have to be tall? Would he have to dress nicely? How about money? How much would he have to have?
It’s funny but I have never been attracted to men in three-piece suits. That could explain why my heroes wear jeans, why they often work with their hands, why they don’t have a lot of money. I like men with callused, tanned hands. Men who can fix anything. Men who are smart and honorable. Men who live by a code. Men who love where they live and think getting to live there is worth more than money.
That’s the kind of men I love. Because of that, that’s the kind of men I write about.
I have asked women what attracts them to certain men. It is often not what you would think. For some it was his hands. For others, it was his smile. My husband makes me laugh. Sometimes I think it is just that simple. He gets my jokes. He gets me.
But if I had to name one thing about him to explain why I feel the way I do about him I’d have to say it’s the music. Sometimes I will be in another room and a song with suddenly come to me. I will start to sing it and in that other room, he will join in or finish it.
I know, it seems like such a small, silly thing. But it always makes me smile.
When I write a hero, I look for that one thing that makes my heroine love him. It isn’t the way he fits his jeans or how handsome he is. It isn’t his money. It’s that small, silly thing that makes her smile and that ultimately makes her love him in a way she couldn’t love another man.
So what is at the top of your list when it comes to your hero? What made you fall in love with the man in your life? If you had to narrow it down to one little thing, what would it be?