In Illinois, they found the solution to bullying…
Yup, that’s the solution folks. Now we know. Stop that dangerous hugging.
Okay, toning down my sarcasm, here’s the deal, Percy Julian Middle School decided that students hugging one another, and engaging in “hugging lines” distracted the kids from school. So as part of the no bullying, no fighting ban, they included hugging. You can read it here this article
Frankly, I think it’s just ridiculous. They could stop a hugging line clogging hallways if that’s really the problem. But stopping hugging? Nope, I don’t think it’s because hugging lines were clogging hallways.
I think it’s fear. Administrators are in constant fear of lawsuits, trouble from overreactive parents, and for missing the signs that could lead to serious disaster. And so we are trying to create this perfect society, free of all sexual threats, hurt feelings, etc. And to do that, we are now punishing kids for being kids.
Schools have to be the most insane places. In Oregon two 13 year old boys were ARRESTED for patting a girl on the butt. It’s bad behavior, don’t get me wrong. But they arrested the boy and wanted label him a sex offender. Those boys spent 5 days in jail. Talk about an over-reaction. This is typical middle school boy behavior (and girl) and it’s the perfect place to teach them what is acceptable and what it not.
When did we lose sight of the fact that schools are for learning? Both academic and social skills? Butt slapping is inappropriate and should be stopped. But to arrest boys for that? Do you know how many middle school boys would be in jail?
But hugging? It’s a normal form of expression, particularly for girls. And sure, boys might try to sexualize a hug and dang it, that’s what teachers are for. I spent a lot of time on my kids middle school campus and most of the teachers were sharp and perfectly able to apply common sense to situations. They walked by and told those hugging too long/ too close to knock it off without making a big deal out of it. If a “hugging line” clogged the halls, they put a stop to it. COMMON SENSE without having to answer to the social forces that want to make every touch and actions sinoster or sexual.
Do we want to teach out kids that hugging is bad?
I don’t know. I’m tired, it’s been a long weekend, a friend of mine’s son is really sick…and damn it I think we should have more hugging in the world. Do we have to take this all or nothing approach in our school? What happened to apply rules with a dose of common sense? What’s your opinion?