I’ve agreed to write a How To Write Erotic Romance book for a UK publisher? No? Ah, well, I did and I am. I wasn’t going to do it. I have no time, I told myself as well as my agent and the publisher, who, btw, contacted me, not the other way around. Not the editor but the publisher. I was flattered of course. I’ve never had an editor much less a publisher come to me. It’s always been the other way around. So, yeah, I was surprised.
My agent politely told the publisher I was too pressed as it was and could not deliver the book within their deadline schedule. It was hard to say, thank you for asking, but no.
Truth be told, while the deadline was impossible to meet, I was scared. While I’m a blabber mouth when someone asks me for advice, I’ve never written non-fiction, or a how to anything.
I was relieved that I would not have to write the book. But—the publisher came back and said she was, ‘very keen on working with Karin’ and would push the deadline out to accommodate my schedule.
Yeah, she had me at keen. I knew then I was going to do it. I’m embarrassed to say, I had a Sally Field moment. How sad is that? I mean I’m a confident person. I’m confident in my work in so much that I know some readers love it and others don’t. I’m ok with those that don’t.  I’m comfortable writing fiction, but a How To book on writing? Yikes, I’m getting nervous just thinking about it because for me, when it comes to writing a romance, my weakest skill is the actual writing i.e. the words. My strength lies in my characters and the emotionality of their love story. Not the words. But I’ve agreed to write a book on how to freakin write! The words!!
I said, yes. For many reasons. I think the biggest reason of all was to get out of my comfort zone.  To spread my writer wings. To prove to myself that I could. But before we could ink the deal, I had to write a forward and an outline for the publisher to submit to the acquisitions committee. I did it in two days. Pulled my hair out, but I did it. I sent it to my agent who loved it, who then sent to the publisher, then held my breath. I turned blue, and nearly passed out from lack of oxygen. It took forever! (a week for God’s sake) for us to hear back.  Two thumbs up. The publisher loved my voice. Who knew there was voice in an outline of a table of contents?
Suffice it to say, I’m nervous. I’m excited. I’m scared to death, and praying I can pull this off. I don’t want to disappoint my publisher who had the confidence in me to ask me to do this project. And I certainly don’t want to disappoint a budding author by steering them wrong.
So, despite the craziness that has become my life since I began the reboot of my business last month, I’m working on a non-fiction How To book! Who knew?
What about you? What have you done that pushed you completely outside of your comfort zone? And were you successful?Â


















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well, hot damn girl, that is sure exciting. I hate to sound like a chicken, but i am stepping outside my comfort zone everytime i leave the house. I need to work on that! Going to 2 RT conventions by myself is what i am MOST proud of hopefully i can force myself to go again in 2014 New Orleans!
Julie
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Julie, are you going this year to Kansas City?
Congratulations! I look forward to reading it
It’s always exhilarating to take that leap. Like that time I ended up the MC for a convention. OMG I was terrified…but I got through it and had a wonderful time
Oh, an MC? How exciting! I bet you were awesome. ^_^
WOWOWOW! Yes! Yes!
Hey, if anyone can write it — and tell it like it is — it’s you, Karin! Glad some savvy editor had the foresight to realize you write smokin’ sex scenes that sell.
Can’t wait to read it!
xoxox Josie
Love you Josie girl! Thank you. xoxoxo
Awesome news, Karin! I’m so excited for you!
Thank you, Mags. I’m excited too… and skeered.
YAY KARIN!! Picture Pom poms and me n a cheer leading outfit! I can’t wait to see that book. Fledgling writer here, ready o soak up some knowledge. I hope st available in the US too. You have a lot of wisdom, and I love your voice. That’s wonderful news. Stretching the wings…I try that sometimes. You’ll do a great job!
P.S. uncuff me please…this is a just in case I go to moderation jail.
Peace and love,
Paula R.
Hey, Miss Paula, yes it will be available in the US as well. How is your writing coming along…?
The writing is going. I had an epiphany last week, but I need to work some things out before I can focus on that.
I am resigned to the act that I’ll be in moderation, so do what you need to do to save me when you come back. I need a time out any way
Peace and love,
Paula R.
Congratulations, Karin. I’d wish you luck, but you don’t need luck – you’ve got the drive and the skills. =o)
Lately, I’ve been pushing my comfort zones – trying new things, breaking out into the world. I’m using the mantra ‘Embrace Change’ (and hoping the change I’m embracing doesn’t turn grizzly bear and crush me).
Beth I love your mantra. May I steal it? That’s a printable one to post on my wall!
It’s all yours, Karin. =o)
Congratulations, Karin!!!!!!
Thank you, Deb. I almost wrote my blog today about how your remodel has inspired me to be more down to earth with my new office. Two days ago I was in a little antique store downtown and bought four pieces I never would have considered before. I thought of you and how much I have learned to look at classic pieces in a different light. Thank you! xo
I think it’s wonderful, Karin, that you’re doing something challenging…but it’s totally in your wheelhouse, the book will be terrific! And a good reminder, too, that other people sometimes zone in on our stregths/opportunieis more than we can because we’re so heads-down in our current work-in-progress.
Thank you, Stephanie! I’m channeling your positive vibes. ^_^
Karin, your book will be great. The comments and changes you made to my query were spot on and perfect across the board. I have complete faith in you.
Now, whether you’ll still be sane while reworking your business AND writing this? Well…bless your heart, I wish you well….
Thank you, Jake! I am already behind b/c of the business reboot. I told hubby last night, I might move into my new office to get some actual work done!
No, thank you. And working in the office is a good call. At least if you have a crazy moment, he won’t be around to notice.
You do your best work under pressure and “under fire”, Karin! Cheers to this new opportunity and I’d totally have a Sally Field moment, too!
Drinks at Nationals are on me!
Thank you, Silver! I will take you up on the drink invite. Are you going to RT?
Congratulations! How fabulous for you! And they came looking for you…that’s really flattering.
I know right? Kendra no one has ever come looking for me. hence the pathetic Sally Field moment. sigh. But I got over it quick before I lost all of my dignity.
You’ll be great! Don’t worry, just write. The only person you don’t want to disappoint ever is yourself. And pushing the boundaries of our comfort zones is how we learn…how we live. Wasn’t it Maya Angelou who said if you aren’t pushing yourself into uncomfortable places everyday, you aren’t living? You go! The book will be amazing.
As to how I push my comfort zone….I date:)
I learned how to fly…but that’s not nearly as scary as sitting across the table from a man I don’t know wondering what sort of weirdness he will exhibit…and whether he can run as fast as I can.
Oh, Deborah you made me laugh! I see a book there somewhere. ^_^ But I hear you. If I was thrust back into the dating world right now, I think I might hide for awhile. A very long while. Good luck and keep us posted. I’d love to hear some stories.
Anytime…war stories over wine:) Dating, the last great frontier. You have no idea….
Congrats Karin! There are a lot of up-and-coming authors out there who are going to love you for doing this!
Who knew there was voice in an outline of a table of contents?
I have a feeling there is voice in even a grocery list – if you write it.
I think this book is just another way of you paying it forward. The publisher picked the right person for the job.
Huge congrats.
That is totally awesome news, Karin. Congrats. I love that they came to you rather than the other way around. Nice switch.
I have every confidence that you can write this book. You have that snarky voice that can pull it off.
Karin! That is so cool! You’ll kill that job and what a perfect time to write a book like that. What is this comfort zone you speak of???
Miss you guys!!
xoxo
PS. My name’s still on the masthead…does that mean you want me back??
Rocki, I want you back!!!!! I miss you
Peace and love,
Paula R.
Karin, major congrats. That is so cool.
You just never know what door is going to open, huh. I’m excited for you!
That is SO cool, Karin! Congrats, and I know you’re crazy busy, but you are going to rock this, just as you do everything else you choose to tackle!
Wow, congratulations! I know it will be a fabulous book. You have such a straightforward style, I think authors will really respond to your voice. Good luck!
The last time I did something outside my comfort zone was probably going to a wedding in a foreign country. It was so fun even though I couldn’t understand most of the conversation.
What an awesome opportunity for you!! You’ll be awesome. Much congratulations Karin!!!