It’s a tradition to use the new year to reset our priorities or to make promises to ourselves or others (resolutions). Our goals often are personal, other times they’re career related. Sometimes we see results, too often we toss the whole concept aside and wonder why we bothered. I’ve been guilty of the latter a few times. Who hasn’t?
The past three years have brought huge changes in my life. In 2010 I was injured and the results changed my life forever. I was reasonably sure my single title career was over and I was praying I could hold it together to keep my category book career moving forward. In 2011 besides my baby girl getting married and flying from the nest, I dusted myself off and stepped back up to the plate to relaunch my single title career with the first two books in the Faces of Evil series. I will never forget the phone call that brings tears to my eyes even as I type this with my one good hand. I was in New York on business (my first business trip since the injury) and my husband called the hotel late that night. The first thing he said was, “Are you sitting down?” Next he told me how both those self-published books that no one in NYC had wanted had just entered the top twenty bestselling romantic suspense books on Amazon. Both stayed in the top 100 for more than six months. Even now I cry when I think of how the decision to go for it changed my life for the second time in as many years. In 2012 my digital sales on Amazon launched me into the arena with (at the time) a handful of others who had sold more than a hundred thousand copies of their digital books by self-publishing. By early spring I became one of 45 authors who negotiated major deals with traditional publishers based on that self-publishing success. It was amazing and such a tremendous blessing. It saved us in so many ways I can’t begin to tell you.
As 2012 came to a close the idea of what was coming in 2013 was a little terrifying. Would the success of 2012 spill over into this year? How would I keep up the pace? When was I ever going to take time for me and get in shape. I have always been a large woman, but after the injury months and months of being incapacitated left me in deplorable physical condition. What good was success if I couldn’t enjoy it?
That’s when I made a new promise to myself. Not to my family or friends or colleagues in the biz, but to me. 2013 is my year. Mine. Yes, I said mine. I know it goes against the grain of being a woman and a wife and a mother. But that’s what I said and that’s what I mean. This year I will get the weight off. This year I will get back into good physical condition. This year I will enjoy the fruits of my success. This year I will enjoy the happiness of my grown-up children and this year I will romance the man I married more than thirty-eight years ago. And in between I will write more  Faces of Evils books and Colby books and I will love every minute of this life that I am blessed with but above all else, moving forward, I will love and take care of me.
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For starters, I’m standing up and cheering for you. Rock on, Debra!
Then I’m going to refocus on what can be dabbled in and what can be sacrificed in order to get my writing, and my family life, to where it needs to be so that lightning can strike and I can get that first yes, while staying a good husband to my beautiful wife.
Excellent, Jake! Good for you! How can we take care of our familes and give the best to our work if we don’t shine a little of our focus on ourselves!
Debra,
First let me say bravo for you! Yes 2012 was a great year for you but I think 2013 will top it.
I know the feeling of being so out of balance health wise that you tip in the wrong direction. Good for you that YOU are making the decision to put you first.
I plan to continue with my life changes and loose weight ( finished the year 17 pounds down!) and eating differently and exercising. And continue on my hobby of photography.
So here is to 2013 and the success that I know is coming your way!
Wow, Linda, congratulations! You are fabulous!
Congratulations to you!!! I took that decision last year.lost 25 pounds and started getting in better shape; not an easy task! But this year I will continue the progress by keeping up what I succeeded last year and not regressing.
Wow, Diane! You and Linda are my inspiration! This time next year I want to be able to report success like that!
Good for you Debra! I wish you all the best.
You, too, Toni!
Way to go Debra!! Nothing will make you feel better, enjoy success AND your family more, than getting yourself in better shape. I’m sending you a SoCal high five!!
I’ll think of you this afternoon when I head out to walk
Thanks, Catherine! I’m excited about taking care of me!
You go, girl! Like everyone else, I’m at my desk giving you a standing ovation. You touched on some sensitive areas in my life with today’s post. Many of the same thoughts have been swirling around in my head. I took the self-publishing plunge last year and while I didn’t come anywhere close to your success, it was a good decision for me. Now I need to move forward, to make 2013 my year, too. Thanks for the motivation!
Yay, Silver! And you are a huge success!
Dear Debra,
This is such an inspiring post. And you’re right: as women, wives, mothers, and careerists, we always put others ahead of our own wellbeing.
You are one smart lady. You should be very proud of yourself. As your friend, I can tell you I love, respect, and admire you wholeheartedly.
Here’s to a happy and healthy 2013 for you. For all of us!
xxx always,
– Josie
Josie, you are just too awesome! Love you, girl!
It’s about damn time, woman!
Yeah!!!!! I want to be gorgeous like you!
Hi Deb,
I love these sentiments! This year SHOULD be yours. Focus on you and what you need to do to keep yourself healthy and enjoying your life, your family, and your success.
My resolution this year is to spend more time appreciating my family.
Thanks, Laura! Cheers to you for your amazing resolution!
I’ve followed your injury story and your fabulous success. What an inspiration! I worked with my husband to help him shed 50 pounds last year. I need to take a look at this year and figure out where my priorities are and write them down. They’re currently floating around in my head, but I need to state them out loud and lay out my action plan to achieve them.
Thanks, Kendra! I’m so glad you’re here!
Yeah for you!!! We all need to do something just for ourselves. I complained a few years back that I had no ‘me’ time, that my family wouldn’t give it to me. Ms. Karin told me, “they won’t ever give it to you, until you take it.” LOL Biggest lightbulb moment of my life.
Good for you, Jill!!!
Good on you Debra! Hope 2013 is an awesome year for you!!
What am I going to do for me this year? Ummm, not a lot. I had big plans, with my youngest starting school I was going to have more time to myself and I was going to focus more on my writing and making my life (and career) what I want it to be, rather than what I feel obligated for it to be (does that make sense??). Then it turns out I’ve *somehow* managed to be pregnant again, so yeah, looks like all that will be on hold for a while yet……opps!
Tanya, congratulations! I hope 2013 is awesome for you and your family!
Chiming in late, Deb (I’ve been traveling), but wanted to say GOOD FOR YOU. When it comes to your health, I like to remember the the flight attendants’ advice to “adjust your oxygen mask first before helping someone else.” Good luck!
I’m chiming in late too. But good for you Debra!!
I’m with you!! We have to take care of ourselves. I haven’t but I’m determined to make a lot of changes this year as well. What is the point if we don’t enjoy all this hard work?