My intent was that she has to grow from a “go with the flow, hide in the background” kind of woman (for legitimate reasons) to one who steps out to stand up for herself. This manifests itself by chatper 3, but I’m looking at the opening again. It’s about growth and change, right?

The heroine in my latest book was probably not exactly the run of the mill, and I knew this-part of me has been waiting to see if anybody would hate her because of it…eh, yeah, I guess I was waiting for that. I don’t like the double standard but I’ve got to admit, it’s definitely there. I just try not to focus on it, I guess.

outspoken as our heroines, I don’t think.

LMAO. Um… I can’t necessarily call myself brave, but I’m probably as outspoken as some of my heroines, at least. I’ve got a big mouth.

My problem is I often don’t temper my outspokenness with…tact. ;o)

I try to make my heroines smarter than I am-try to make them handle things better than I would.

I think some of it is the “authoritarian follower” personality type shining through.

Authoritarian submission — a high degree of submissiveness to the authorities who are perceived to be established and legitimate in the society in which one lives.
Authoritarian aggression — a general aggressiveness directed against deviants, outgroups, and other people that are perceived to be targets according to established authorities.
Conventionalism — a high degree of adherence to the traditions and social norms that are perceived to be endorsed by society and its established authorities.

From “Right Wing Authoritarianism”

Although most of the internet info on the authoritarian personality highlights the American political scene, I find it to be universal – it’s really about power.

I just don’t buy the idea that a woman doesn’t know which guy she wants to be with.

Trust me, it’s VERY easy to not know which man you want to be with when you’re looking at two equally great guys.

Been There, Done That. And almost 20 years later I sometimes still wonder if I made the right choice.