I’m so thrilled to be joining the crew here at Murder She Writes! I can’t imagine a nicer place to  yammer and blab every couple of weeks. I write a mystery series for St. Martin’s/Minotaur about fifty-year-old Stella Hardesty, a Missouri housewife who helps women take care of abusive husbands and boyfriends. And when I say “take care of,” I mean that when Stella’s on the job, those bad boys’ attitudes get permanently adjusted.
I live in Northern California with my husband and two teenagers, but years ago, when my kids were babies, I lived in Chicago next door to a wonderful woman named Linda.
Linda did it all. She had four delightful children, cooked beautiful meals, grew heirloom roses, and volunteered for lots of worthy causes. Â Linda greeted every day with flawless makeup and every hair in place.
Linda had only one teeny little flaw: her house was a little wee bit…disorderly.
Uh, that’s a polite way of saying it always looked like a hurricane had just blown through.
One day we were in the rec room and I was searching for something in her cabinets – probably one of the children we’d accidentally misplaced – and I opened the wrong door by mistake.
“Oh nooooo! Not that one,” Linda shrieked, “that’s where I keep my dirty little secrets!”
Now back then I wasn’t quite the no-holds-barred, gutter-mouthed woman I am today, and I was kinda startled. Intrigued, of course, but startled. I actually considered shutting the door and sparing my dear friend any embarassment but – well, it was just too tempting. I let the door fall open the rest of the way, and out of the cupboard tumbled the most astonishing collection of …
Well hang on just a sec. Before I tell you what was in that cupboard, let me ask you a question: when January rolls around, what’s the lead story on nearly every single women’s magazine? Is it Sexting: Not Just for Teens Anymore? Five Ways To Make Him Forget His Middle Name? Eight Erogenous Zones You Didn’t Even Know You Had?
No no no, my friends, try this:
When January rolls around, the same magazines that spend the eleven other months of the year pitching midlife va-voom have suddenly got a case of the spic’n'spans.
Yes, that’s right. In January, we don’t want fashion tips. We don’t want to be exhorted to lose those holiday pounds. We’re not in the mood for better health or well-behaved children. What we want is a place for everything and everything in its place.
And oh, friends, I fall for it every time – I decide this is the year I will GET ORGANIZED FOR GOOD.
Here are just a few of the follies of  Januarys past:
One year, I sewed coverups for all the old-fashioned sinks in my house (these don’t seem to exist in California, but back in the midwest we all had ‘em) just so I could hide clever caddies underneath that contained cleaning supplies. The idea was that I’d never have to leave the powder room to do a little impromptu sprucing because everything I needed was right there under a few yards of chintz. Instead, every time I took a comfy seat on the…y’know, I had a birds-eye view of what was really just a bucket o’ guilt dressed up in a skirt.
Another time I spent forty-five bucks on these gorgeous Italian art-paper file folders.
Now I realize we’re just getting to know each other and all, and I should probably hold off on my darker secrets, particularly the ones that could get me in trouble with the IRS, but I can’t keep track of my expenses or jot down my mileage or hold onto a receipt to save my life. So I’m not sure why I figured that beautiful, unused filing system would make my tax preparer any happier than the equally-empty $1.99 job from Walgreens.
Then there was the time I decided that everything in the pantry was going into this modular storage system that fit together like DNA in a gene sequence.
Tall containers for spaghetti. Big oblongs for cereal. Squat square ones for rice and beans. Blocky canisters for flour and sugar. It took me about eighteen straight hours and cost as much as my first car, and I had only managed to organize a single shelf when my husband wandered in, took one look and said “Aw, great – how the hell am I ever going to find anything now?”
Which actually brings us back to my friend Linda. The thing that tumbled out of the her cupboards? Not sex toys, or red satin teddies, or special videos she and her hubby made on their honeymoon. It was a king’s ransom of Lock & Lock, enough to store not just every morsel of food, every leftover, every teabag in three counties, but also every crayon stub, binder clip, dry-cleaning coupon, and  lego; every gift-with-purchase lipstick in a color she’d never wear; every mateless sock and mitten, cell-phone manual, hotel shampoo, and dog brush.
Not that all of those things were in the Lock & Lock. No, all of those plastic boxes were empty. But that was okay. Because what Linda was enamored with, what so many of us fall for year after year, isn’t so much organization but the potential for organization. The glorious possibility. Oh, deep down we know that the odds of us ever sorting through the sock drawer are about as high as learning conversational Mandarin or developing six-pack abs. But we still love to dream.
So tell me, in this time of resolutions and good intentions, what organizational fantasy really gets your motor running? You can tell me, sugar, just lean in close and whisper…is it California Closets? Matching spice jars with calligraphy labels? Huggable hangers from HSN? It’ll be our little secret…and just to make it fun, I’ll select one comment at random and send you a copy of A BAD DAY FOR SORRY, the first book in the Stella Hardesty series!



















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italian print file folders. shhhhh…
ps, so happy you’re here, sophie!!
Oh I can so see that, Karin. Though I had you pegged for a shoe closet!
oh, i have that too. and none of my shoes are where they should be!
Welcome, Sophie!!! I must say, organization is NOT my strong point. It’s not my weak point. It’s no point. I’m organized like I plot. Um, not.
I do have a drawer for receipts . . . only, sometimes I forget to open it. :/
Oh I so know what you mean about plotting without organization, Kelly. Even though I’m a holy mess in real life, in the books it seems to work out. I kind of just throw stuff into the story until it feels about finished and then – usually – I discover a theme and a plot lurking within.
Yesterday was having lunch with a couple of writer friends and one of them was saying she was having a heck of a time knowing when her book was done. We decided it was like brownies. You know when a cake is done because of the toothpick test; you know when cornbread’s done by tapping the top of it; but the only way to really know if brownies are perfect is with intuition. And so it is with the disorganized story!
Um, I think I was logged in as Kelly, my daughter! Grrr . . . darn kids . . . that was my post earlier, LOL
ok, glad you said it, because i was amazed and envious that you had produced such an eloquent teenager!! (Mine are currently grunting in the kitchen.)
Welcome Sophie!
I would love more counter space so I could have my appliances handy.
Well now here’s a painful truth….eight months ago we moved to a much smaller house. I couldn’t figure out what to do with all my appliances….so I, uh, just left them in boxes in the garage. Turns out I *can* get by with just a coffee maker and toaster LOL
Welcome to MSW, Sophie! We’re so delighted to have you join the team – can’t wait to dig into your mystery series.
That is, as soon as I organize my life. I’m more of a colored file folder and new pendaflex kind of girl (I do my best work in the office, not the kitchen!)…but I admit that I just made a resolution to stop buying non matching disposable plastic food containers that don’t stack. I call it my “Tupperware” cabinet, but there’s not a Tup in it. Plenty of “Glad” and “Ziploc” and orange stained (spaghetti sauce’ll do that) plastic containers that don’t fit into one another, and at least four lids for each bottom — none of them matching.
Thanks for the inspiration. I’m off to the Lock & Lock site.
Oh sugar, that Lock & Lock is a dangerous addiction! I own gobs. And it seems resistent to the curse of the orange stain. That alone’s enough to make a believer out of a person, isn’t it?
Ditto on the welcomes, Sophie! I loved your story about Linda! The last couple of years I’ve turned into an obsessive bargain hunter when it comes to remodeling my house. In fact, my neighbor (who is also renovating an old mill house) and I have a sort of competition going. She beat me on windows but I got it all over her on flooring and cabinetry.
Oh Debra we have the best salvage yards over in berkeley, about twenty miles from here. You wouldn’t believe all the interesting stuff they pull out of old houses. Of course, I live in a sea of suburban tract housing so all you’re likely to salvage around here is…a builder grade toilet?
Nice to meet you, Sophie. I look forward to reading your posts and your books. =o)
My organization fantasy? A big five-drawer filing cabinet with hanging folders and perfectly typed labels. One where I can keep all my household financial stuff in one drawer, without things falling all over, and still have room for my submission materials. Where I can find a phone bill from last year in seconds because I need a phone number off it, or the printed agent info if my computer crashes again, or the receipt for those shoes that pinch. One cabinet… for everything. :sigh: Wouldn’t it be loverly.
I’ve fantasized about having all my books alphabetized by author, so I someone wants to borrow King or Koontz, I’d know all their books were in the 2nd bookcase in my bedroom. Problem with that is that a have at least two large book cases full of books in every room in my house, and the books on top of the bookcases, on my tables and etc.
Carol, love it! In my world view, books don’t count. They don’t have to be organized to make you virtuous. Do you have the problem where you get it into your head that you want to visit a particular book and then it can take you a whole day to find it, usually stacked behind an entire row of mass market paperbacks you stuck in front when you ran out of room? Yup, that usually brings on a case of alphabetization-envy….
Over the years I have realized that I like organized chaos…which is why the laundry room always looks as though a tornado has come through on laundry day [even with the cute laundry organizing system that was a gift from my parents when I got my first place] and the office/scrapbook room, with all those empty modular organizing units, looks like a bomb went off, especially if I have spent the weekend playing! Although the office side of the room is pretty well organized and the file folders are well used, it is one of the areas that I must keep clean, or the mess distracts me when I am trying to work there. The rest of the house looks pretty good though – just dont open any of the closets!
Yeah tell me about it…there’s a little chunk of desk where, if I block my peripheral vision and don’t turn my chair, things look pretty good. I tried telling my husband that the organized chaos was necessary to my process – I might show him your post as proof…
Umm. I’d like a water-proof organizational doohickey for the rear of my Subaru Outback. Serious first aid, spare water, blankets, towels, tarps, Mag-Lite, 200 feet of rope, assorted tools, hidden compartment for survival staples like micro-jars of peanut butter and MREs, crush-proof bottle of scotch, oh…and can I include a LOCKED compartment for something lightweight, semi-auto and room cleaning (wink-wink). A lad can dream…
Kieran, you special ops guys are excused! I would actually volunteer to organize for you if you let me borrow the night vision specs or something….
Hey Sophie! So lovely to see you here!
Having also recently downsized houses — what this says about our writing careers, I’m not sure — I’ll tell you my wife and I have learned the single most underrated organizing tool: The trashcan. Throwing stuff away can feel even better than having boundless tupperware, can’t it?
Brad, throwing stuff out has the highest pain-in-the-moment to feelings-of-virtue-later ratio of any activity I can imagine. I do feel like someone should have sent me a framed certificate or something when I was done, though. And given me the day off. And a scoop of jamoca almond fudge.
Welcome!
We’re selling our house, so I’m forced to become organized. And neat. Can’t say I’m loving it. When I’ve looked at the virtual tour of my house on the web, I can’t believe it’s mine.
Knowing people will open cabinets is SCARY. And the hubster has not yet grasped the concept of “nesting”. He will put stuff away, but won’t put the medium-sized bowl in the middle. It goes on top of the small one.
But when we move, I’m going to get organized! Yeah, right.
Terry, moving did more for me in a few short weeks than ten years of good intentions ever did. It was really, really hard to see all those possessions going to charity or out on the curb. Felt like half my life! But I have to tell you that now, I don’t miss any of it. Amazing, really, and gives me hope to tackle the stuff that now lives in the garage. Best, best luck with your move!
A huge welcome to MSW. I dream about being organized but I’m not. I’d like to blame it on the 5 kids and the hubby, but really it isn’t them, its me.
Uh….five kids? honey you get a pass! if you can see the floor through the junk i think you’re ahead of the game!! I only have two, and my entire house can go from clean to disaster within half an hour of their coming home from school.
Yay, Sophie! Welcome to MSW.
I am actually kinda lusting after that pantry organizational thing, but with labels. Because I got started a few weeks ago and realized the same thing–without labels, everything started looking alike. But never fear, I have now purchased a shiny whiz-bang fancy label maker which will print off my labels in about 90 different fonts.
Now if the damned thing would just go finish organizing the pantry for me, I’d be thrilled.
oooh, a *label maker*. Love those. One year I “gave” one to my kids for Christmas and then snatched it back before they could play with it and went around the house labeling everything. Now I hear they have digital ones??? Uh, how fun would that be? I’d probably be making labels for the box of triscuits and the waffle iron. And….fanning self….90 different fonts? Oh, I’m such a font slut. Little secret: i turn all my manuscripts in in times, like you’re supposed to, but sometimes when I’m editing I put it into a *pretty* font just to make it more fun…
Welcome to MSW, Sophie. I can already tell we’re going to be BFFs! Ooh, shinies! *clicks, looks, clicks, gets lost*
I should take a picture of my desk and work table. The piles have piles. Whenever I wander through any office store, I gaze longingly (and dare I admit my fingertips caress with a quiver of anticipation) the file systems, folders, office furniture, sticky notes, matching pens….*sigh* The problem? Every time I organize I can’t find a blasted thing and waste more time looking for stuff than I ever did getting organized. Oh, well.
Silver!! I remember you from when I guest-blogged here months ago, I just love your name so much. Oh yes, the office store fixation…I am actually going over there later today because I need one little thing (tags for the kids’ band yard sale) but I will easily spend 45 minutes “just looking”. And how about that *office store smell*? Sigh….
OMG! That Office Store Smell(tm) is even better than New Car Smell(tm)! Just sayin’!!!! Labels! I love labels, too. I forgot them on my list. *casts guilty glance at storage drawer full of unused labels* Have fun at the store. I’ll be sitting here all jealous and stuff!
we’re back from office depot – $45 poorer, but we got a whole bunch of new post-it notes, these really cool mechanical pencils…and the labels
Sophie, you are a girl after my own clutter– I mean, heart.
I’m good at organizing paper, but anything three dimensional is beyond my grasp. I think it’s because I’m a lefty. Spatial perception is not my strength.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Pam
Pam, my daughter’s a lefty and while it hasn’t made her more organized, it has certainly made her far more impervious to direction. Oh, wait – maybe it’s just because she’s 14? Hah!
Are you freezing up there?
Hey Sophie! Fantastic inaugural post! I was dying to know what was in the cupboard!
Please don’t judge me, but I’m somewhat organized by nature.
Except for writing. My plotting and writing methods are a mess. If I ran my life the way I write, I’d be living in a disaster zone.
Wish I could buy something to make my writing process easier–like a new brain?
Judge you, Jen???? Never! I will simply attach myself to you, barnacle-like, in hopes that some of your virtues will rub off….
funny, the #1 workshop request that I and my co-teacher have had is for a class on different styles: plotter/pantser, outliner/organic, messy/structured. I think deep down everyone needs to be assured that what they are doing is “right”. In my mind it’s *all* right, if it gets you from page 1 to “the end”….
Hooray, so glad you’re here, Sophie!
Great post. When I read “bucket o’ guilt dressed up in a skirt,” I thought, How did she know that’s what I call myself?
I’m having an emotional affair with The Container Store. I go there, flirt with all the containers, caress them, but then never buy any because I know, like Linda, I’ll leave them in their boxes. My best solution has been to marry a man who’s very organized. Thank goodness, ’cause otherwise, I wouldn’t be able to FIND my desk, much less a coffee mug, every morning.
Ooooh!! PCN! So funny because remember our Corte Madera lunch date – we were right next to a container store!! Next time we’ll just skip lunch, and sneak luna bars as we walk the aisles, inappropriately caressing the merchandise…
And you KNOW i was thinking of you when i wrote that line. hah!
I didn’t even notice the Container Store next door! For sure, you would’ve been roped into a threesome.
I’m easy. I love those large plastic bins with the locking tops. That way, I can just dump everything from a project in one place and get it out of the way when I need to.
GSM, you got me. Just yesterday I was at Target and they had Sterilite totes in NEW COLORS. Now I ask you how is a red-blooded woman supposed to resist that? I bought two (the leaf green and the magenta, thanks for asking) and came home and had to *invent* a use for them. Luckily, husband had dumped the ski clothes all over the bedroom floor so it worked out….
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My husband has threatened to throw everything away in our “tupperware” cupboard while I’m on book tour next week. But see, he wants all the plastic containers the same size — no variation, which makes no sense to me.
I have penciled in May for my closet cleaning. Been putting it off, and with deadlines, that’s the soonest I’ll get to it, so at least I have a goal, right?
And it’s hard to tell your 13 yr old to clean her closet, when she dryly asks me what *my* closet looks like
Great post! Looking forward to sharing Wednesdays with you
Lori, all the containers *the same size*???? Struggling for air here. The whole entire beauty of Lock & Lock is that it comes in about a billion different shapes and sizes. I have one for pushpins (teeny) and one for dog food (ginormous) and everything in between! Tell your husband it comes in tons of pretty colors too.
Or, um…maybe don’t.
Thanks for being my Wednesday partner in crime!
Hi Sophie! Loved your post! I’m a complete sucker for organizational tools. What is it about a decorative box that I can’t bear to throw away?? And I’ve been known to buy stuff I don’t want, just to get the free tin. This makes no sense, I know. It’s like that “free” bag of cosmetics you’ll never wear that comes with your $40 purchase of eye cream.
Can’t wait to read more of your posts on MSW!
oh, Laura honey. That’s a whole post right there, isn’t it?? The psychology behind the gift with purchase. I would bet you my firstborn that no woman on the planet – not even Ruth Bader Ginsburg – can pass the Clinique counter during “freebie” time without feeling the magnetic pull. Must…resist….the….freebie…
Hey I just had the most amusing thought. The Clinique free-with-purchase is the existential opposite of the NPR pledge drive. Right? I mean put them in a black hole together and the universe would explode.
Giggling, but maybe I better take my smart mouth and get back to work….
Ha! Laughing as I stare at the NPR coffee mug sitting on my desk… It’s my favorite mug of all time, and yes, I got it free with my donation. But I didn’t KNOW I was going to get it when I made the pledge, so that’s still charity, right??
I enjoyed your informative and entertaining post today. I love those cute, adorable and decorative small boxes which clutter and do nothing. Also cannot resist canisters on sale. I am avoiding those items more now than ever.
oh ann, adorable little boxes – - I once bid my daughter’s entire preschool tuition on a darling little limoges china mailbox. that thing did not have a use in the world, as far as I could tell. I mean you could have stored maybe three jellybeans in it. But something came over me….
I try to fight organization because my husband is anal-retentive. He also constantly throws things out. “Have you used this this year?” No. “Out it goes.” I’ve lost so many small appliances that way.
But I constantly organize my desk. If I get it right it will make magic, I just know it. LOL
jill those people like your husband are scary! no doubt they are right, but they still scare me. I think they secretly go to meetings where they learn how to say things like “when was the last time you wore that top?” “do you really need eight pairs of black shoes?” “what could we possibly do with another serving dish?” they are the enemy of Crate & Barrel, the scourge of the Nordstrom shoe department. And yet we love them. Sigh. If that’s not a big enough conflict to carry a novel, I don’t know what is….
Sophie, so true. I don’t have to go far at all to research my alpha male hero.
I can use any idea that can help me get organized! Any ideas! Help!!
There’s nothing I like more than a good organizing.
I love love love hanging folders and label makers. ♥